Much of people’s actions derive from their thoughts. And, these thoughts originate from one’s experiences during their life. It can be effortless to fall into the trap of living for others. For instance, some parents have hopes and expectations for their children to grow up and become successful doctors and lawyers. Thus, in a pursuit to fulfil the expectations of their parents’, they live their lives to ensure that they go to an elite college and spend hours of their time studying. Some realize only until later on in life how that goal wasn’t something they truly desired but that they wanted the acceptance from their family.
Many people live their lives for others without even realizing it. And, others who know that their goals hold no personal bearing may still try to convince themselves otherwise. Living one’s life for others always leads to significant regrets later on. Therefore, it’s important to know how to only live one’s life solely for themselves and no one else.
“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” – Shannon L. Alder
Build Your Inner-Strength
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Gustav Yung
It might seem appealing or natural to go with the general flow of things. However, this isn’t always what’s best for people. Many people experience social pressure when it comes to making significant decisions with their life, such as whom they will marry, the type of job they will hold and the belief systems they choose to follow. A person can live their lives for themselves by building inner-strength. Inner-strength is simply the ability to express one’s will with a sense of conviction, even in the presence of adversity. This is because that person knows exactly what makes them happy and what is for their highest good.
Use Your Voice
People should learn to say “no” and take the road less travelled. Although some may feel obligated to adhere to the expectations of others, they must realize that this is a never-ending cycle of dissatisfaction. Instead of agreeing to do things solely to please others, one should ask themselves if they feel fulfilled. Once a person makes their wishes clear and reaffirms them, others will have no choice but to accept them or remove themselves from the equation.
A person must retain their individuality. Many people lose themselves or never find themselves trying to swim among the vast ocean of normality and acceptance. One should separate themselves and take some time to find the hobbies they enjoy as well as creating their vision of how they’d like to see themselves.